What I know now - Belinda Austin

I met Belinda online/virtually when I was organising an event for female entrepreneurs. I needed lots of wine, and wanted to support a family-run and awesome female-fronted business, this rabbit hole leads me to Belinda. It turns out that in her tiny team - were two awesome women who I adore, and I know good people surround themselves with good people - so I took an ever greater interest in Belinda and her wines.

Belinda has been to hell and back. She and her husband Scott parent with strength, love and humour. I absolutely loved her honesty in speaking about asking for help and the tough days that come. Following Belinda online is a really affirming joy, she's less about the wine and more about the honest parenting lessons.
Having said that, the wine is VERY good and super reasonably priced. Belinda has popped together some great mother's day packs and we've listed 6Ft6 in our real-life mother's day guide.

Q.
Do you think it is possible to prepare to become a mama?
A.
No, I don’t think anything can prepare you for the immense love you feel and the absolute f*&%$ ing scariest yet joyful ride of your life. Personally, I never thought I would be a Mum but after seeing Scott for three months we had an ‘oops’ and Spencer was conceived. It was the greatest oops of my life. I wasn’t prepared, in fact, I was still overcoming PTSD and although it wasn’t perfect timing I learnt quickly to ask for help, receive help and not do it alone.


Q.
What are your #mamagoals?
A.
My only goals for my children is that they discover what they believe, what their values are and find a path that makes them content. Oh, and I would like Spencer to start wearing underpants and Delilah to stop wearing lipstick when school starts back.


Q.
Having a newborn is all so new, there is so much unknown. Where did you turn to for support as a new mama?
A.
So much unknown, the unknown is scary and for those that suffer from Anxiety, the unknown can be a huge trigger. For all three children, my approach and my support network changed.
Spencer - my first baby I relied heavily on my husband and my Mother in Law was beyond amazing with Spencer. After I realised I wasn’t coping mentally I saw my GP and a psychologist to assist with my PND journey and my Mum was a great emotional support.
Delilah - I prepared in advance for this one and saw a counsellor while pregnant to try and avoid the PND hole. I felt more prepared and it was a much more enjoyable experience. Unfortunately soon after having Delilah I found out I had Hashimotos disease so I relied more heavily on medical practitioners to try and overcome the extreme tiredness and weight gain that took it’s hold on my health. I hired a Nanny at this point and that helped me work and get my health in a better place.
Huxley - This was the HARDEST pregnancy that put a close on my desire to have any more children. Due to the extreme pain I was in from pelvis separation and my reliance on regular hospital visits and the use of a walker, I visited a psychologist on a fortnightly basis. This was essential for me, however, once Huxley was born and the pain went away I didn’t feel I needed as much mental support. I did bring in an Au Pair and I spent the first three months in a beautiful newborn cocoon while Scott took care of the older children and I bought in most meals and took it completely easy on myself. Third time around, I finally worked out how to do it!


Q.
What was the very best advice you received before you became a parent? A.
The best advice is no advice at all. Advice should be given only when asked, otherwise, the best support I received was simply a listening ear and a warm hug.


Q.
What advice do you think new parents should ignore?
A.
Any advice they didn’t ask for. Ha! Find your own journey. Linger in that love bubble with a newborn and enjoy it as much as you can.


Q.
What was the best thing you packed in your hospital bag before the birth of baby?
A.
Wine and chocolate.


Q.
A hospital can be an unfamiliar setting, is there any tips you have for making a hospital feel a bit more like home?
A.
I had Scott bring in the best take away meals. After having gestational diabetes and being hungry for 6 months that first meal of pasta and garlic bread was heaven. Oh, and I brought my own mattress topper and pillow because those beds can be uncomfortable!

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